We had to change up the sleeping situation to accomodate the new tanning bed set up in Pearce's room (nursery) for a couple days. The bili bed lights brighten up the whole room -- in a lovely blueish purple ray. Luckily Jeremy can sleep with lights on, because I can barely sleep when the bathroom light is on with our door shut! so Jeremy bunked with Henry, and Pearce bunked with me. I told her we were having a special SLUMBER PARTY!! I was actually surprised that she took a nap fine the first day, and even slept fine through the night for 2 nights (with an exception on the first night her falling off of our tall bed onto hardwood floors, whoops!). But by the second day's naptime, it just wasn't gonna happen. I laid with her in bed for 2 hours, and there was no settling down, as you will see from the video below.
*Her favorite phrases right now are "just teasin' you" and "that's the deal, ok?"
*She has turned camera shy. Especially with video. I want to capture so many of the funny little things she does and says, so I'm learning I need to be sneaky, and the iphone works best hidden behind something.
*She is really sweet and funny and incredibly adoring to Henry....BUT she has also been the hardest part of having a newborn. She has also entered a 'pre-teen sassy' phase and tells me she doesn't like me anymore whenever she gets in trouble. Does the opposite of what you ask of her. And likes to kick or nudge my tummy knowing she's not suppose to.
*She actually asks me several times a day "Why you mad at me?" (I answer "I'm not.) Her reply, "Why you have a frowny face?"
*How long does this life changing "TRANSITION" (new baby) last?? I give her plenty of attention (hours upon hours while Henry is in light bed), and I promise I've been pretty patient with her. But she still acts up!!! What else am I suppose to do??
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Oh man! Sounds like you've got your hands full. Hope her "pre-teen phase" doesn't last long!!
P.S. Your video comes up as private so I couldn't watch it. Let me know if you change the settings. I'd love to see it.
Emmy I'm hoping you'll be taking notes for me that I can use in 5 months!!! I know that I OBVIOUSLY have not been in the same situation yet but maybe you could start a sticker chart with positive rewards. Maybe that's lame but at the same time I know transition is hard and I know most kids want attention (negative or positive) and maybe she'd react well to it. Just a silly thought. You could put a goal each day to not kick mommy in the tummy:) hahaha! You'll figure it out . . . you are such a great mom and I'd say you've done an awesome job so far and you've figured out each stage before this one. Again . . . TAKE NOTES FOR ME!!!
That is no fun. SO sorry Pearce is having a hard time. I'd say a lot of it is her age and having changes happen. She's probably thrown off a little because you were gone a few days and her routine was different. I agree with Brooke, try a reward sticker chart, my girls always get into that. Also ask her to be your helper and have her help with little things. Like "can you be a big helper girl and bring me a diaper?" or "will you go tell Henry it's alright?" and if Henry is crying you can say "hold on Henry I have to help Pearce for a minute". Just try and involve her in everything. As for sassy talk, I have no idea how to fix that except maybe just reiterating that it's not nice, Jesus doesn't like it, we shouldn't teach Henry that, daddy and mommy don't talk like that, it makes you feel sad, etc. who knows? Hang in there, things will get better!
and oh my goodness, that video was adorable. I can't believe how good she is at talking and telling stories, what a cutie! "i'm just teasing" "thats the deal" haha i love that!
Oh my gosh that is the funniest video!! hahahaha WAY to much energy for nap time. I love to hear her talk and her funny little phrases. I know you said she's a handful, but she sure is cute!! :)
I know you're probably doing all the right things and so I'd just have to say it's nothing you're doing or not doing, she just notices the changes and is trying to get her attention back, even if you're giving her lots of it. Every parent goes through this... I remember after Ruby was born he started hitting a few weeks in nursery. Ugh! I could have died. He had never done that before. EVer. So I knew it was just to get attention. I feel like we gave him lots of it and didn't know what I was doing wrong! But honestly it just lasted for 2 weeks and then he was back to being a nice boy:) They're just kids and they're going to kinda be hit or miss with their actions and it's just normal. She'll learn to deal and things will smooth out, I promise. Hang in there! You're a wonderful mom. I remember sitting in the corner of Ruby's room when she was little, and crying cause meanwhile Max was just chilling out watching a movie or doing something else while I was "neglecting" him. At least, that's how I felt. You're so used to one child that diving your attention between two is emotionally draining sometimes. But I promise they won't remember this transition time and before she knows it, she won't remember what life was like before Henry even came.
Hugs to you!! And oh my gosh this video is too cute. She talks really well for her age!!! I am impressed. She is so cute and smart. I was laughing out loud.
I meant sitting in the corner of Ruby's room nursing. haha. Not just sitting in the corner for no reason. That sounds depressing. :)
no advice on the transition stuff. i got lucky and never had any issues but can I just say how freaking good she talks??? Holy Moly, the twins seem handicap after watching that video. :)
Transitions are so hard! For everyone, I think. Someone gave me advice, that I think is just perfect - it will pass! Nothing lasts forever & even though it seems like it will, it won't. Don't really help solve problems, but helps with perspective.
And I love her phrases! Dying at "That's the deal, ok" ahahaha
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